Even now, some 14 months past age 70, I need to work on the loving myself part referenced on the following Lonely Ape’s list. Other than that, I have found myself doing darn near all of the rest. Unfortunately, there were a few past relationships that just ended, either by intention or just plain neglect. Most, not all, were not of my own accord. I’ve had to just move on, developing new friendships as I go. Gail Sheehy’s “Passages” series laid the groundwork for much of this. Steve Harding
Many thanks to my cousin Kimberly for sharing this post from the Lonely Ape http://www.lonelyape.com/
I asked a friend who has crossed 70 & is heading towards 80 what sort of changes he is feeling in himself? He sent me the following:
1 After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children and my friends, I have now started loving myself.
2 I have realized that I am not “Atlas”. The world does not rest on my shoulders.
3 I have stopped bargaining with vegetable & fruit vendors. A few pennies more is not going to break me, but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.
4 I leave my waitress a big tip. The extra money might bring a smile to her face. She is toiling much harder for a living than I am.
5 I stopped telling the elderly that they’ve already narrated that story many times. The story makes them walk down memory lane & relive their past.
6 I have learned not to correct people even when I know they are wrong. The onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.
7 I give compliments freely & generously. Compliments are a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me. And a small tip for the recipient of a compliment, never, NEVER turn it down, just say “Thank You.”
8 I have learned not to bother about a crease or a spot on my shirt. Personality speaks louder than appearances.
9 I walk away from people who don’t value me. They might not know my worth, but I do.
10 I remain cool when someone plays dirty to outrun me in the rat race. I am not a rat & neither am I in any race.
11 I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. It’s my emotions that make me human.
12 I have learned that it’s better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. My ego will keep me aloof, whereas with relationships, I will never be alone.
13 I have learned to live each day as if it’s the last. After all, it might be the last.
14 I am doing what makes me happy. I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to myself. Happiness is a choice. You can be happy at any time, just choose to be!
I decided to share this for all my friends. Why do we have to wait to be 60 or 70 or 80, why can’t we practice this at any stage and age?
Thanks for sharing.
Happy New Year.
You too Don!!
Thanks Steve. Great words of wisdom tempered by experience and love.
Have a Great New Year Holiday and here’s hoping for a much better 2021.
From: Practitioner-Scholar Date: Wednesday, December 30, 2020 at 9:27 AM To: Mark Asturias Subject: [New post] I asked a friend who has crossed 70— Steve Harding posted: ” Even now 14 months past age 70, I need to work on number 1 on the following list. Other than that, I have found myself doing darn near all of the rest. Unfortunately, many broken relationships have happened from the other end. I’ve had to just mo”
Back at you Mark!! Stay Well!!
I love this so much, Steve. Thanks for sharing~and All the Best in 2021 for you and your family. Don’t we all deserve it? xoxox~Constance
Even though this time of year is usually for reflection, It would seem we are all searching for answers and meaning in these trying times. We’ll all get there. Best to you and Brian.
Thank you. I’m in rehab after back surgery. Hope all is well.
I hope your recovery is a short one. Try to stay safe and healthy. Steve H.
Wonderful message! Words to live by. I liked #14 the best.